It’s a classic scene that’s all too common in romantic movies. The protagonist starts out in a serious relationship, but one of them travels far away, and their connection crumbles under the weight of long distance. Love, it seems, can only thrive when it’s close by.
While it’s true that a long-distance relationship won’t be easy, they are in no way impossible, nor doomed to fail. If you and your partner find yourselves physically far apart, keep in mind these tips to keep the two of you close in all other regards.
Establish Clear Starting Guidelines
Planning to keep up a relationship in spite of long distance is no small commitment. Thus, it’s not something you should jump into blindly. Before the move, sit down together and talk about what the relationship means to both of you, as well as where you want it to go in the future. This is a healthy behavior for any serious relationship, but it’s especially important in circumstances like these.
Thanks to modern conveniences like e-mail and Skype, it’s easier than ever to stay connected across time and space. Keep those lines of communication open! Get in touch at least once every day, and possibly multiple times a day. When you’re separated by distance, it’s things like this that will keep your connection strong.
Allow Each Other Space
Communication is vital, but you should also respect your partner’s boundaries and independence. Chances are, each person will have his or her own social circles and activities at home, and they’ll be a crucial factor in maintaining your mental and emotional well-being. Don’t let jealousy or isolation cause you to resent your partner — trusting one another is one of the cornerstones of a successful relationship.
Visit One Another Often
Staying in touch and maintaining trust will go a long way, but sometimes there’s just no replacement for physical, face-to-face interaction. A long-distance relationship will be greatly strengthened by the occasional visit. Hammer out in advance a consistent schedule for this, keep it fair (that is, don’t force one person to play the host every time), and stick to it faithfully. Also stay conscious of travel expenses and how they’ll fit in to your budget — you can make frequent visits more doable with groupon.
Decide on a Mutual Destination
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With care and maturity, you can a long-distance relationship for a long time, but nobody wants to stay in such circumstances forever. Just as you should set up clear relationship guidelines going in, you should also have a firm idea of when and where your arrangement will change. If you plan to stick together in the long run, try to figure out how and when you’ll close the distance; if not, aim to amicably make a clean break.
One other thing the movies tell us about love is that, if it’s strong enough, no outside force can break it. Given the right approach, you can definitely persevere in your long-distance relationship. Stay strong, stay in touch, and stay connected!
Abigail Clark is an upcoming freelance writer. She graduated from The University of South Florida with a bachelors in marketing, minoring in journalism. When she isn’t up to her neck in coupons she is enjoying the outdoors fishing. She loves doing reviews for technology, home products and beauty products. If you would like her to do a review for you look her up on twitter @downtownabby17.